If humans are always seeking pleasure, and avoiding pain... then anything we do that is not of benefit to us, is because our mind is finding something within it benefiting us. Sometimes it's so that we can "keep" one thing (like safety), others to "gain" something (like approval). In truth, in our negative behaviors and mindsets, no one actually wants to carry them out. It is what they think they are getting from it.
No one wants to feel depressed or doubt their worth. No one wants to feel powerless, no one wants to hurt others in anger and hate. We are not born this way, it is learned behavior based on our fear. Fear that we cannot avoid pain, and cannot gain pleasure. Fears that accumulate from our human experiences and relationships.
Nothing would occur in our mind if it did not think it was somehow benefiting us. This is why it's important to ask what is benefiting us within what we would not like to be experiencing.
If I'm serving as an example, my mind is skeptical and doubtful despite what I've experienced and the evidence for what I want to believe (the universe, unconditional love, we are all one). I realized recently that what prevents me from embracing a sense of faith in my experiences derive from invalidation of such experiences. This kept me from trusting my feelings and experiences and to undermine them. Although I believe in the law of attraction, that aside we still know that what we put out into the world is what we receive (from others and our own mind i.e. neuroplasticity), we will only experience what we put out or practice. Doubt will only yield to doubt.
However, my mind has it twisted. I found that what was benefiting me within my doubtful behavior, is that I get a sense of "true" evidence when proven wrong, rather than seeking for evidence toward what I'd like to prove "right". This is because my mind equates the latter with a construction of the mind, rather than actual evidence since it's not in the face of doubt. See, now, what roots me to doubt!
It is very much the mentality of "wrong" until proven "right". My mind attempts to ask the universe to give me evidence in the face of doubt. And you know what's funny? It has! I've been given personal evidence, and come upon cases of evidence of what I would like to believe with others. I will elaborate on these cases later. And even then, the doubt continues. What does this tell us about true skepticism?
Someone will continue to doubt if that is the vibration they are in. Nothing outside us can change our emotions (influence maybe), except for ourselves. We doubt, in essence, ourselves.
Doubt comes from a place of fear, faith from love. However, we cannot mistake this faith with blind ignorance. Strangely, blind faith and doubt feel the exact same. They are both a state of closedness, in an effort to draw rules and endedness to a reality that is constantly changing. To gain closure, because we think we will have safety in our closure.
What we find after a while, is that regardless of the evidence we find for anything we want to believe better (that will reinforce a feeling of love and acceptance--not to be confused with ignorant positive escapism), the shift must ultimately happen on the emotional level. External comforts are tools, your mind is a tool. It's all about how you use it, but in any case, you are the driving force behind change. We may repeat to ourselves affirmations, "I am worthy" or "I am talented." We may find evidence. But in the end... it is not the affirmations, the evidence, or any other tool that truly shifts us. Our emotions are what cause us to truly understand--emotional comprehension is full and complete comprehension from a place of love and insight. This is why empathy is such a great skill!
Obviously there are many things that cultivate doubt. But my personal doubt is such a wound. One that, even by the very nature of doubt, I must again learn to emotionally comprehend and trust in my comprehension. Similar to performing well on a math test... comprehension, and then may I perform well.
Safety is exactly the positive intention behind the doubt I face personally. Safety to not feel invalidated again, and so my mind wants to stay in a state of closure. Safety is me trying to protect myself from something, which means there is something I fear. It can also mean there is great hurt. I have not yet found this wound.
Why do I fear faith?
If I was full of faith, what bad thing would happen?
So, using this modality, question your own positive intention behind what you are feeling:
If I feel ____, what keeps me in this state?
What am I afraid of?
If I feel ____, what am I actually gaining by this experience?
If I had ______, what bad thing would happen?
This is a great way to find the underlying emotions behind why we continue to feel the way we do.
It doesn't rain to punish the soil, but to nourish the earth so that seeds may grow. What seeds have you planted?
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